May 11, 2020

Phone Sex Tips from a Pro-Operator

Say you're in a long-distance relationship, or maybe you and your guy are on the road too much. Phone sex is an excellent way to keep the spark alive, connect emotionally, oh and fuck yeah. It can be hot. Here's some advice on dirty talk from an actual phone-sex worker to help make your LDR schwing! Check out out our MagicMen adult shop page which has everything adult shop related that you might need.

Phone sex can seem like a scary step into the unknown, but it really is a way to take your sex life to the next level. An important part of a relationship is trying new things out with your partner. Phone sex can be a great way to make your relationship that little bit more exciting, and if you bear these tips in mind, it can be a truly great experience for both of you.

If you're reading this, it's probably from your couch, bed or backyard, as the majority of the world has gone into self-isolation in order to flatten the curve of the pandemic that is currently impacting our world. While some of us enjoy a good weekend at home now and then, as the weeks progress, it gets harder and harder to keep things interesting. Especially if self-isolation means you can't see your partner or partners.

However, there are still plenty of fun ways to create intimacy, even if you can't be in the same room as your partner. What's an awesome way to create some excitement and intimacy while obeying self-isolation? Phone sex! The brain is our most powerful sex organ. It's where the magic happens.

Now, we are well aware that it is 2020, and that many of you would rather video chat, but phone sex is great old school practice to mastering the art of dirty talk and sex communication. Why not learn some new skills during this quarantine? If being able to see your partner is super important to you, don't worry. All of these tips are applicable for a sexy video session as well!

Being in a long-distance relationship or even just away from your partner for any amount of time can be tough. Thankfully, we have phones and computers to help us keep in touch with the people we love — or even just the people we lust after. Most people will tell you that sexting is absolutely necessary if you want to keep your relationship hot until you get together again, which is great advice until you get a little self-conscious and realize that sexting properly can be a little hard. Luckily, we have all the phone sex tips you'll ever need to get over your inhibitions and get a little dirty, long distance. Check out out our Buy online vibrator page which has everything adult shop related that you might need.

If you've never done it before, phone sex and dirty talk might seem daunting. You might feel nervous, silly and unsure of what to say. Or you might be so enthusiastic that you jump right in - only to commit one of the dreaded phone sex faux pas. The problem is, not everyone's blessed with the throaty voice or the confidence to get hot and heavy on the phone. Here are our top tips for how to have a conversation that's hot, fun and satisfying for everyone involved.

1. Keep Calm and Carry On

The first bit of advice: Relax. If he gets to hear you come, and he came too, then you're doing just fine. Don't overthink, or try to weave overcomplicated scenarios. You don't have to be Scheherazade, just talk. Remember that he finds what you say incredibly hot. You're a slutty girl. You really turn him on. Just leap right in and describe scenarios. Trust me, and you won't disappoint him. When you talk dirty and push the limits of what you feel comfortable doing, there are going to be some moments that feel really awkward or uncomfortable. Just go past it, learn to get lost in it, and don't judge yourself or withdraw. An unabashed attitude and absence of inhibition will make you one of the best partners your guy has ever had. Check out out our Adult dildo shop page which has everything adult shop related that you might need.

This is someone who, apparently, likes you enough to make a phone appointment with you while they're spending a semester abroad in a magical, faraway country (or just from across town on a rainy night). So relax: This person digs you and wants to get turned on with you. You don't have to be embarrassed about wanting to have phone sex.

Nothing will dampen the mood more than your mind is elsewhere. Before you pick up the phone, take some time to have a long soak in the bath, light some candles and let your mind wander to where you want it to go. Being relaxed will allow you to immerse yourself in the conversation, making it an experience that you will definitely want to repeat!

2. Feel It First

Do you feel your sexiest in comfy pajamas or sexy lingerie? Do you like to burn a little incense or light a candle for its flickering soft light? Do whatever makes you feel your best.

The sexiest thing you can be is comfortable and relaxed. Taking a few steps to set the mood will make initiating a sexy chat more comfortable for you. If you feel sexy, you'll sound sexy.

Start exactly how you would actually start in the bedroom: teasing. Run your fingers down his chest. Play with his thighs. Brush your fingers across his cock, then dance them away. Gradually build up to slowly start jerking him off. Talk about how good his cock feels in your hand, and how much you can't wait to have it inside you. Talk about what you love about his cock—like the ridge around his head—while you continue to talk about pumping him up and down. Then tell him you are going down on him. Tease him with your tongue before wrapping your lips around him.

The point is to play it out exactly how you would actually tease him and then fuck him in real life. Start slow, lots of build-ups, and get dirtier and more descriptive as you go on. Lead his arousal from beginning to end. And one of the biggest things that are arousing to someone is to hear how much they turn on their partner, hence adding spice through your response, desire, and physical reaction to his body and his arousal.

This is totally up to you, but try to set a mood for yourself. Put on a pair of underwear that makes you feel hot or lower the lights in your room. If you feel super hot and turned on in your sweatpants, so be it. But sometimes lighting a candle on putting on your hot PJs can help you ease into the conversation.

Your first few attempts at phone sex can make you feel awkward and nervous, but there is really no need to worry. Remember, your partner loves you for who you are, and as long as you are yourself, you will both have a great time. Wear something that you feel sexy in, and tell your partner how good you feel. Confidence really is a great aphrodisiac!

3. Playing the part

Phone sex can be a great way to adopt a naughty new persona. Try acting out those scenarios that you've always wanted to try in the bedroom but have been too embarrassed to approach. If you are a couple who regularly indulge in phone sex, this can be a great way to make your conversations even steamier! Check out out our Adult lube shop page which has everything adult shop related that you might need.

As the popular pro-condom saying goes: Nothing is less romantic than a crying infant. This doesn't just apply to babies; it goes for pets, roommates, and whatever elimination-based reality-show you were watching when the phone rang.

Phone sex is about fantasy and creating a mood, so put the kids to bed, pause your Netflix and focus on the task at hand. The atmosphere is a delicate thing, and any audible distraction can break the façade

So, what are you doing?

Always ask your partner what they are doing just as much as you tell them about what you are up to. Showing your partner that you are turned on by whatever they are doing on the other end of the line will increase their confidence, resulting in phone sex that is uninhibited and great for both parties.

4. Dirty Talk PhraseBook

Some girls tell me that they aren't sure what to say for dirty talk. I ask, What turns you on? What turns your significant other on? Phone sex is a fun way to play out fantasies.

What's the dynamic: is he turned on when he gets to be sexually dominant or does it make him hard when you take charge? Who's the "top" and who's the "bottom"? For your word choice, how dirty is too dirty for your relationship? Is that even a consideration? Phone sex can be an excellent fantasy lab. Experiment.

Often, couples in long-distance relationships use phone sex as a way of remaining intimate when they are not able to be with each other physically. Letting your partner know that you are missing them and would like them to be with you right now will allow you to talk in detail about what you would do to each other if you were together, making your fantasies all the more realistic.

It might advance to you talking about straddling him, letting the tip of his cock rub against you and feel just how wet you are. Let him know, throughout all this, how turned on you are and how he makes you incredibly wet. Just keep building and building until he comes.

Ask them what they want.

If you're nervous about getting things going, toss the ball in their court. A really easy way to get started is telling them whatever you're doing to yourself and ask them to do the same.

For some, the adult conversation just feels awkward. Many of us never got used to using words like "nipple" or "erection" without giggling like a titmouse. *snerk.*

Take some time to think about which words sound sexy to you, and which sound ridiculous. There's nothing wrong with planning some of your conversations ahead of time, especially if you're nervous.

It's also OK to let your partner know what your preferences are. If "boobs" is not a sexy word to you, say so. Take your partner's knowledge and vocabulary into consideration, as well. If they have no idea where the G-spot is, telling them how much you love when he hits it will only break the spell.

5. Flirty Dirty

"Flirty Dirty" is for foreplay and for guys who aren't really comfortable with the dirty stuff, for whatever reason.

ROLE: You're the Top

I know you've been thinking about doing/fucking/tasting me all-day
Come here and kiss/lick/bite me (point to the appropriate area)
You're getting hard thinking about touching/licking/fucking me, aren't you?
You're hot, but I'm gonna make you work for this
I know what you want, but I want you to ask/tell/beg me to give it to you
You're mine tonight babe/baby/love/[his name], and I'm going to fuck/suck/work you hard
Good boy, just like that/you make me feel soo good/keep working it like that

ROLE: You're the Bottom

You've been getting me all worked up/horny/wet
God, I've been thinking about you all-day
I can't wait to feel you against/inside me
I love it when you look at me like that
Oh god, I want you/this so bad
I'm yours tonight baby/[his name]
I want you to take/fuck/use me like I'm your good girl
Oh baby/[his name], oh that feels so good/great/awesome
Oh, I love feeling you inside me/on top of me

Don't allow any awkward silences to develop. As things get steamier, you may find that sentences get shorter. When you are not speaking, let those silences be filled with moans, heavy breathing and those sounds that your partner knows and loves. Those noises can say just as much as any sentence can!

It's OK to take a breath and laugh about how awkward this is (if you feel like it is). In real life, if you were banging and the position was awkward or all of a sudden, the dog walked in and made it weird, you would laugh with each other, right? The same goes for phone sex.

6. Avoid Technical Problems

Avoiding amateur phone sex mistakes is comfortable with a little technical preparation. Be sure to charge your phone completely and that you're somewhere with good service or wi-fi connection. Dropping a sexy call mid-sentence can lead to hurt feelings and all manner of misinterpretations. Turn your phone to 'do not disturb.' Sync your Bluetooth headphones. It'll save you a neck cramp and keep your hands free.

If you're using a laptop for video sex, make sure your screen and audio aren't casting to anywhere else in your apartment or house! The same goes for the audio on your phone.

If you're expecting a can't-miss call, leave the sexy convo for another time. Coitus interruptus isn't any better over your cellular network than it is in real life.

Just think: Back in the day, people had to use a rotary phone to have long-distance sex with them. Just because it's called "phone sex" doesn't mean you shouldn't use the video technology at your disposal. Using FaceTime to masturbate mutually is a great idea, or you could connect via Skype with your laptop — if you set it up properly, you can get busy, hands-free.

7. Don't be shy about the vocab.

Basically, having phone sex is just masturbating with each other and talking about it. You should definitely get to work while you're on the phone with each other if anything because it will keep you turned on as the convo progresses. If you normally use a vibrator or other toy, break it out and tell them about it. Coming together while you're far away from each other is super hot.

Word choices are key in phone sex. You'll want to avoid using words that diminish or describe your partner as anything less than magnificent. That means avoiding terms like schlong, wiener, winkie, wee wee, or any word a kindergartener would use.

Everyone likes a compliment! After you guys finish, congratulate yourselves. Tell your partner that that one move really worked. Like, really well. Hopefully, you'll get some compliments in return to boost your self-esteem for next time. Once you pop your phone sex cherry, it gets much easier.